[Javalita]

I received a packet of info from my agency about attachment and other things to consider/read about. I ignored it and focused on what was important to me at the time - getting that paperwork done!

Then I started to read some attachment books on my own, based on recommendations here and on FRUA. I read them, I thought I knew what I was getting into, but really I knew nothing. I did a lot of good things the first few months home, but also made some pretty big mistakes.

I'm not sure I could have really been ready though. Becoming a mother was a pretty big shock and change. I was in shock and was just doing what needed to be done the first few months. After around 4-5 months home I really got clear headed and was able to take a step back and figure out what was really going on.

It is a big life change! For me, I needed the time to be a mother before I could focus and think about the attachment with a clear head.