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Originally Posted by icunurse
I can kinda understand what you're going through, but for a little different reason....we were open to many races when we started the adoption process. We ended up with a CC DS. When we were starting up the process for a second child, we did question how much a child of a different race would "stick out" in our family (as we are all CC), would he/she feel slightly alienated, etc? We also wonder if the fact that our DS is CC will be a factor for pbmom not choosing us if their child isn't CC. In the end, we decided to leave our race choices open. A lot of people have families who don't share the same race and they seem just fine.  |
This is exactly our situation. We were pointedly and delicately questioned by our agency to make sure we understood all the implications. We chose to keep our choice of ethnicity open, leaving it upto the expecting parents to determine whether they thought it was a good situation for their child. I have family members who are visibly different and they're still family.
Ironically, we would not be Bug's parents had we not been willing to consider other ethnicities. Our file would have never been shown to her first mother who is part Cree. We are so thankful...