[Ktates]

Great post Kim!!!
I totally agree - and unfortunately there is no book for "what to expect when you're adopting - the PI child"....group effort to publish one???

anyway...Our agency didn't steer us to websites or anything about attachment or PI challenges issues. When we were on trip 1 - the facilitator did tell us some things to expect with our child (usually will only attach to one parent in the beginning etc) but it didn't hold a candle to what we experienced. That is probably the one main criticism I have of my agency - my SW is great to talk to about things including attachment etc - but it would have been great to get a headsup from them.

Plus I would think if agencies/SW are on the hook for making sure they are placing children in good homes it would be in their best interst - I can't help but think that some of the abuse cases stem from a lack of preparation by parents/agency or at least pointing out decent resources you know?

This board was great for that. If it wasn't for people sharing the good, bad and ugly - I would have felt very alone those first few weeks and thought I was doing something wrong or made a mistake...
Karen