|
I am AA my dh is CC and when we talked about adopting we thought it would be full AA chidlren because that was where we heard the need was. First ds was hisp/CC (Puerto Rican of African decent/French Canadian). We thought about it with #2 and decided that it would be ok if #2 didn't look like we could have "made" him/her and again we assumed we would get a full AA child. Again we were matched with a Biracial child. Before we could go to the well a thrid time a cyber frined matched with another biracial child. By the time we got to # four we were SURE this time it would be a full AA baby but once more the person who picked our profile was carrying a biracial baby. Here is the intersting thing THAT baby is the one who looks like a trans racial placment. She is pretty fair skinned with bone straight hair and I wonder what she will think about "fitting" in with the other kids.
I don't worry that much. Like you we are a multiracial family and I think that makes it easier. Also we live in a very diverse area. At our elementary school the single largest group of minority students are chidlren of mixed race and trans racial families are VERY common (Sam has three transracially adopted kids just in his class of 17!) I think the new world that our kids are growing up in will make a difference and whether or not you look like anyone in your family will be less of an issue becasue you still see yourself reflected in your community, your school etc AND your expereince as a transracially adopted child is becoming increasingly common so you will have peers to share with.
lisa
|