[sugarbabysmommy]

My husband also leaves the garage door open, the side door unlocked, the front door unlocked, car doors unlocked, the back door unlocked... so I'm always going around to each door every night and checking locks. He doesn't have ADHD. He has a ten to eleven hour work day in which he multitasks constantly, heavy multitasking has been shown to lead to memory issues and burn out, and he doesn't feel unsafe in life in general so these things just don't rank very high for him.

It makes me nuts that he does these things, leaving the lights on I don't care about, that's not a safety issue, if anything I'd rather he leave the lights on then it might look like we're home when he leaves the doors unlocked. He has gotten better, and what worked was to tell him that his behavior made me feel unsafe. I am home with our child all day and he was making me unsafe in our own home, the one place we should feel and be safest. It bothered him to know he was making me feel unsafe.

When you grow up differently it's tough. My home was broken into as a child, three times, my mother drilled it into me to check the doors, my husband grew up in the burbs where nothing ever happened. It really hit home when a neighbors a block away were broken into when they were home in the garage... and it's the very same layout as our house.

good luck, it sounds like you feel vulnerable in general and it all came to head for you.