[oldenough]

Please don't "kill" me for saying this, but:


I think that calling you for a ride instead of "giving favors" shows that she is capable of making good decisions. Granted, it's not good that she's willing to give her bf another chance, but it's not something you really have too much control over. She can see him at school, etc. If she wants to see this guy, she'll find a way. I think the best thing to do here is guide her to make even better decisions for herself in regards to what she's willing to do with her body and self esteem. The choice has to be hers. She will be the one to suffer the consiquences, unfortunetly.

I know you want to protect her, but there's only so much you can do.

If she doesn't want to have dinner, it's not going to kill her to skip a meal. She's mad at you. Let her be mad. She'll get over it. Taking her cell phone away won't stop her from talking to this boy either. If she doesn't "get" that she's not respecting herself by continuing on with this boy, nothing you say to her will cause her "get it" either. Chances are, she'll end it in her own time...or he will because she won't put out. I think she should make this decision for herself. I know she's only 16, but if she wants to bad enough, she'll find a way to be with him. Wouldn't you rather know about it than have her sneak behind your back?

As far as bio daughter goes...maybe you could talk to her and tell her that hanging out with C isn't such a good idea and that she should try making her own friends. By the way you talk about bio daughter, she seems to have a good head on her shoulders--and maybe she's just waiting for you to not let her go anymore?


HTH.