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Just my 2 cents, take it or leave it, but she hasn't been with you very long. I know they're older kids, but in the beginning it might be helpful to treat them with attachment style parenting so they can bond with your family, before being allowed so much freedom and alone time. We kept our kids with us the first 6 months they were home (they were 11 and 12 at the time). We still spend a lot of time together. My teens are allowed to go to the mall with friends, but dh or I stay. We sit in the hall while they're in stores. We stay a "safe" distance behind them to give them time with their friends.
Also, I know it doesn't work for all families, but in ours, our rule is no riding with a driver under 18 and once our kids are 16, they can not have anyone else in the car until they're 18. It's a safety thing and reduces a lot of arguements.
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