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It sounds like your agency is putting a lot of pressure and constraints on you. Are their rules comfortable for you?
Do you know enough about the pbmom they want to present you to - to make you feel comfortable working with her if she does select you? I believe you that they would enforce their policy but can't believe (as in, I think its awful) that the agency would not allow you a say in the match meeting to determine if you and the pbmom are a good fit. The word "match" usually involves mutuality and in this case, with a child at stake and a lifelong relationship between you and the pbmom it seems cruel to all parties to make you choose one another based on "paper" compatibility. Just my .02 cents.
Neither match is a sure thing. But I think your agency sw is silly to say that the August pbmom probably won't place. She is no more or less likely than the May pbmom to go through with an adoption plan based on due date alone. There will be any number of individual factors for each that will determine whether or not each will actually place her baby for adoption.
Sorry, did not mean this as a rant but as support. Hope it comes across that way.
Best, Ellie
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