[Gigimom]

How did I not mention this part?! If indeed you do choose to place your child in an adoption, I think it is SO IMPORTANT to get post-placement counseling, whether it be a support group or one on one therapy. I didn't and it was a big mistake. I really floundered on my own and the grief was too much to deal with on top of hormones and college and being alone, etc. If I could do it again I would have demanded (in writing, if such a thing could happen and be enforced) to have the agency pay for post adoption counseling for at least a year. I think it's the least they can do.
But again, just my experience.

I would also say that if your relationship with the bfather is not a good one, the pregnancy won't make it better (usually worse, from my own and anecdotal experience)
and even if it isn't "bad", your hormones after giving birth might lead you to make decisions that aren't good for you. Just a long way of saying that I should have broken up with the bfather long before I got pregnant and certainly after, but I didn't and I didn't even after she was born and placed and still I clung on for dear life and it was bad, bad, bad - kept getting worse (hello! counseling sure would have been nice right about then! but I was too.... I don't know... DEPRESSED.. to pick up my own phone and get my own help. Truth be told, even if the agency had had something all set up, I might have blown it off. Anyway.)
I'm trying to say that your relationship is seperate from your pregnancy and don't feel as though you're tied to a guy "just because" you had a child with him.
Ok, again, more than you asked for - sorry!
GiGi