[Roon63]

I have adopted 2x for a total of 4 kids...have a great friend adopted 2x total of 2 kids...all in the foster system here. We are close, but don't talk much about the adoption issues...weird huh?

But here is the twist, another mutual friend that we are more like peers due to our "older" age. She is adopting 2 kids also from foster, same SW as us both, and same state system.

Her husband has asked us both to not give advice to his wife or him. That they will just figure the whole system out on their own. She has called us in the past trying to figure out something, and we give the info.

They have asked us to go to the candlelight, for the children (we have not met them yet), and we invited them all over to our house this Sunday. (This invitation was done prior to the request to BAck OFF)

So, now, I got my hackles up, and pride rubbed the wrong way, and am trying to figure out the best way to handle this? The kids will be here Sunday with them, and conversation not to talk about it, is hard. Sorta like a big elephant in the room, but don't discuss it?
Any help appreciated.