HI, I am a Bmom to a 15 yr old and a mommy to 4 other great kids!! Yes I can say that I had some guilt when I had my 2nd child after having placed my first 2 yrs prior, however I wouldnt trade being a mom for anything in the world
Adoption is the single most hardest thing I have ever been through and I can honestly say now after 15 yrs of pain, I would never have done it had I known then what I know now. There is alot to be said about hindsight though....I wish I had known about places like these forums, I wish one person would have said "you can do it" I wish I could have realized how much it would hurt to not have my bson in my life! Unfortunately I was young and didnt have any support, yes I knew there was help out there but no one would help me find it. I am not anti-adoption in any way but I believe that anyone thinking of placing should really educate themselves before even considering it. I remember how the agency tried to make me believe I could have a semi open adoption meaning I would get pics and letters and always know how my bson was, that did happen for the first 7 yrs and then for whatever reason the aparents decided to cut all contact. It has been almost 9 yrs since I last heard from them and not a day goes by that I dont wander how they all are doing.
Now in answer to your question
(sorry I got sidetracked) yes I do believe you can have a happy family life after placing, but it isnt always easy. For awhile after my 2nd son was born everything he did reminded me of what I missed with my first, I finally had to come to the realization that spending all that energy on thinking about what I had missed with my bson was causing me to miss what my child right in front of me was doing.
I am rambling now, but please please remember this is a lifetime decision, seek out all of your options feel free to PM me if you need to talk. I have been right where you are, I remember it like it was yesterday!