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I guess I need to clear up my original post. I am sure there are plenty of good stories, as well as not so good stories. However, it is pretty difficult to find many threads with the issues that you discuss above. I think there are several reasons for that.
1.) Many of the people on this board are in the process of adopting and have not actually "adopted" yet. So, their discussions are more along the lines of "How do I do this or how do I do that"
2.) People that just adopted and are in what I referred to as the "Honeymoon Period". There quite possibly could be serious issues with their child, but they are still (understandibly) on the emotional high of adopting the child, which could impair their rational assessment of the situation. I am not saying that is wrong. In fact, it is quite understandible, but as time mores on reality sets in.
3.) Like Karen said, after some time passes and some problems do come up, many of those people no longer post. It is possible they feel like they failed or something because they read so many posts of how great things are for other people. They may wonder what went wrong with my child and thus quit posting.
My only observation is that I think there is a disproportionate number of positive posts vs. negative posts. Conventional wisdom would tell us that it can't all be perfect out there.
I have read the more negative posts after Karen directed me to the correct forum and I did read those. I think those post do reflect a more accurate picture that you may see on the main board.
I appreciate all of the feedback and life experiences that everyone provides.
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