Great Post/question!
Personally, I was told about 2 statements by the agency rep. and then I researched like crazy on my own. In fact, everyone was laughing at me. "Oh, there she goes again, researching, has to know everything, blah, blah, blah." Sure, this is just my personality, but I had heard some things before, and wanted to learn about it.
I did sit quietly one night.... no TV, no radio, and seriously asked my self..... what if she has this, or this, or this, or this???? I truly went the gambit.... medical (internal) issues, RAD, etc. Do you know, the one that I did NOT read up on alot, was FAS(E), and that is what my DD has!!!
So, my sit down conversation with myself, ended with.... I will handle anything that comes OUR way. Thinking that if I would have been able to have a child, there would be NO guarentee either!!! This child needs a Mom, and I am that Mom! She loves hearing how I had to search the world, and it took 8 years to find her, but I DID!!!!
The only reason that I wish(ed) that my agency did more (educational wise), was to have the information more readily available.
I truly believe that people / couples need to SERIOUSLY think of EVERY scenerio. MY belief is, that if a child has been in the Russian system for a period of time, they will ALL have some sort of issues. How could they NOT???? I had made the committment to myself and most of all, my DD..... After being home 11 months, and learning of the FAS, etc. We just went into ACTION.... She has some of the best and sweetest specialists working with her, the school is finally coming around, etc.
I think (no flames here please, just my opinion), that some (not ALL) people, have visions of the "Perfect" child, etc., when NONE OF US are perfect!!!
Being a single mom now for 14+ months, I would not have changed ANYTHING. Sure it is hard at times, but I SOOOO APPRECIATE EVERY MINUTE!
Hopefully these thoughts make some sort of sense!