[DebiP]

I feel that our agency prepared us quite well. We have taken numerous courses and gone to many seminars. As well as reading what seems like a library full of books. I don't think it is possible to fully prepare you for every situation but I think that our agency has done a better then good job but certianly not great.

There is a post about the 'hallmark card veiws and the pollyanna picture.' I agree that there are those types of posts here HOWEVER, there are some of us who are truly living that "hallmark card moment" whose children come home and sleep through the night and nap well and eat well and rarely cry and show proper affection not to mention all of the problems that you could see in an International or Domestic adoption. I think that we deserve to post our posts and have our say too even though it is rather polly anna like. That is not to say that our children will not have issues down the road but I can speak for myself that at home 4 months we have not had those issues arise.

I also agree with Karen (angelkisses) that you need to read her posts and hear her story because she has been and continues to be a trooper and advocate for those 'problems'. I also agree with her that some people join here for the inforamtion then leave though I am not sure it is beacuse of having problems with their child that they don't wish to share. I think some people come and get what they need and leave. They have not made 'friends' with others here and don't have a strong connection. Others come and sit silent and learn. The message boards are good that way, you can learn and experience through others but not say a word. I know for a long time that is what I did.


and in the end people will always post just as much as they want....full story or not.
AS ALWAYS JMHO