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I have been reading this Russian adoption blog for a couple of weeks now, as my wife and I are giving serious consideration to adopting from Russia. We are reading all of the articles and the books and trying to prepare ourselves.
One thing that I have a concern with on this blog is that I rarely (if ever) reading any negitive postings. I hope that everyone is doing great and that their children are adjusting well, but statistically speaking... not everyone can be doing great!
I wonder sometimes if some parents are in (for a lack of a better word) .... denial.
It seems like most people that post here are still in that "Honeymoon Period" where even though there may be some signs of some serious underlying issues, they kind of disregard those signs and pretend that everything is going to be "ok".. just because they are so happy to finally be parents and have the child home. We is completely understandable. I would be the same way if I were in their shoes.
I wish more people would be frank and honest in their assessment of their child without allowing emotion to cloud their judgement.
I would also like to see people that have adopted 1,2, or 3 years ago post on this blog and give a true assessment of where there child is at now...and see how it differs from when they first adopted.
I don't want to come off as negative... but I have a feeling that we don't always get the whole story from parents that post on this site.
I certainly understand that your love for the child can make you overlook obvious signs of serious issues.
Just some observations.
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