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I feel that we were well prepared by our agency - that said, I struggled, because maybe I didn't "listen" as I should have. I think agencies walk a thin line - when you are going through the process you have SO much on your mind and your "plate" - most agencies do require classes and ours hit on PI children and what to expect - even touching on worst case scenarios...but, did I really listen? When you are in the midst of the situation, you want to assume everything will be perfect. Even reading the books I read, I kept thinking - that won't happen to us. I went into this knowing that any child, in any system, who was not with their birth family had encountered pain that I could not imagine. By even now, with my children home, I am just learning what some of that means. My agency has offered to help if we need it now - our SW is a wealth of information. No matter how adoption comes to you, in whatever form - there can and most likely will be issues. The scale of those issues and the severity of them is dependent on the child - and I don't think it matters if they are from Russia or Alabama.
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