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Originally Posted By Lori Ann

Julie,
I feel for you, to get so close...as far as your bgrandma wanting contact with you, sounds resonable to me, but if the agency has a certain policy, I don't know how you get around that. My advice to anyone wanting contact with birth family is to use an intermediary if possible. Using a go-between can ease tension in many cases. A trusted friend or family member could possilby help in this regard. They can feel someone out and help facilitate a meeting. Direct contact can sometimes be intimidating. So it's something to think about. When I found my birth parents, I had to use a P.I. to do it, and he set up the meets and went with me. A terrific means of support I can tell you. Plus he had invested a lot of time and money (my money of course) but he wanted to witness the reunion after being so involved with me and the search. As I have mentioned before in an earlier post, I wrote a book about my experiences, fictionalizing the story. It's called Follow Your Heart, and was just recently published. If you want more information, or to vent more, feel free to contact me at janos@calis.com. Good luck to you.