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i can sympathise with you 100% - I was at a party last night with some friends that i used socialise a lot with (none of them know about my adoption application) - they would all see themselves as fairly liberal and open-minded ...as the night progressed a comment was made about a mutual friend (who was not there) who had a baby last year - she is from Brazil and is (in her words) "a lot of races and beautiful!" One woman asked (about her son) "she had a boy... what was he?" (meaning what race) and then proceeded to ask if he was "black" or "Like V___" (his Mum, our friend)
i was a bit stunned and leapt in (as i usually do) and the outcome was everyone saying i was being too sensitive and politically-correct
so even though i know this comment would have offended V___ very much, and i doubt it would have been said had she been there - all these people who i thought were actually sensitive and open-minded, turned on me for making them feel uncomfortable about how they were talking
i don't know - am i being too combative? i feel so strongly that i cannot let comments go by, or i am colluding - and what if (in the future when i get to be a Mum) my daughter is there, surely i have to tackle these things head on ?
I have definitely revised my opinion of this group of friends tho - amazing how people can surprise you
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