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Designated adoption can happen a number of ways. It can be someone who knows you are waiting, hearing of a pbmom who wants to place and putting the 2 of you in contact with each other. It can be that your profile is found online and then you both approach the CW. It simply means that the CW didn't present you to the bmom, you found each other another way. We put the sig line in all our emails that we were hoping to adopt with a link to our LDSFS online profile. Eventually the bmom was simply told of the website and she browsed on her own......she wasn't even LDS and she found us. THEN the CW got involved. Because of the age of the child, it ended up being a private placement thru an attorney. No one wants to "sell themselves" ME least of all. But I found there WERE ways to go about it that weren't so invasive as seeing a pg girl and asking if she was considering adoption. You can take your profile to the local maternity wards in hospitals and speak to the nurses there, you can take your profile to a pregnancy crisis center and leave it there as well. Mostly just tell everyone you know that you are hoping to adopt so that when they hear of a situation, they know to reccomend you. Some people wear a heart pin with the words ADOPTION on it and random stangers will ask them what it means and then they tell them they are waiting to adopt and some stranger may know of a situation. There are printable business-type cards to hand out to people as well. they have the weblink to your profile right on there. I gave everyone I know a small stack to keep in their just in case they came across anyone either. Someone I know was working and a pg girl came in frequently and eventually stated that she would be placing but didn't want to have to find aparents....my friend stated that they were considering adopting (didn't even have a homestudy yet) and the girl ended up placing with them. It can happen a million different ways if you make people aware of your situation.
It's more about getting exposure, than it is about closing the deal so to speak. if 100 people know you are waiting odds are better for you than if only 10 know.
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