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I can see that you wouldn't want to be lumped in with parents who had their rights terminated by the state due to abuse/neglect. And any time I see the blanket or generalized statements painting bparents in this way, I point that out.

Same way I point out that not all aparents are out there to "steal" babies, or completely disregard the bparents after the adoption is finalized. Or when an adoptee is painted as people who should be grateful for their lives.

Think it's just really important to remember on here that people are venting and we can't take one's actual personal experience as the experience for all.

When I discuss things about my kids' situation or their bparents, I'm talking about them personally. Not anyone else. Just like when one discusses the pain of having the aparents slam the door in their face, is their experience and I know they are not painting that picture for all people.

I do hate the generalizations though...it is frustrating for all of us involved.