[DebCsMom]

We have 3 total open adoptions. All of our children refer to thier "First Moms" as thier Birth Moms. That's what we have always called them. Even though they are 5, 3 & 2, they know about thier birth Moms. Our children are Biracial & AA, so I can'T ever pull off being their only Mom...not that I would! LOL When we adopted our children, we also added an extended family!

I posted before about a recent visit with our 3 year old Birth Mom. One night our dd Birth Mom & I were sitting on DD's bed. DD came between us, wrapped her arms around us & said, "I love my Mommy's!" It made both her Birth Mom & I cry! It doesn't mean I am less her Mom or she more her Mom, or whatever. I AM her Mom. We were chosen by her Birth Mom to raise her as our daughter! TOTALLY & without ANY conditions!! She is our daughter 100%! But we can't EVER let her forget their was another mother who loved her so much she made the choice she did. It doesn't confuse our daughter. I'm Mommy & "M" is her Birth Mom. All our children know this.

I SOOOOO love that I can share all the milestones, the happy times, the sad times, the funny times with thier Birth Moms!! It's AWESOME & i wouldn't change a thing!!!

Deb