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Originally Posted by CoatAnnHat
There was a time when I would not leave my children for an hour, never mind a weekend let alone two weeks! My oldest was sick, in and out of the hospital and I couldnt bare to even think of leaving him with anyone. My (ex) DH surprised me with a weekend away and I was dead set against it! My son was only 3 and had never had so much as a babysitter for even an hour.
Reluctantly I went. I had a great time and my son survived! I didnt think I would, but it turned out to be exactly what I needed. Since then I have taken week long trips away and its always the same thing, i dread it at first, but then it works out to be just fine. Now my boys are 18 and 14, and I still get that feeling, even though they are older. So the feeling of not wanting to leave them never goes away, the peace of mind is there knowing that yes, you both will survive, its not the end of the world, and it could be just what you both need.
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Sheryl,
I understand what you're saying. My mother is coming to visit us this weekend and I plan to have her babysit the boys for a few hours so my dh and I can go out on a "date". I have used a babysitter before, when I was pregnant with our 2nd son and had all those prenatal appointments and I didn't want to take my older son each time. It IS hard to let go, but I'm willing to ease into it. But there's a big difference between going away for a few hours or even overnight as opposed to leaving the country for 2 weeks. My boys are VERY YOUNG. My 15-month-old still takes a bottle at naptime and bedtime. Whenever he falls and needs comforting, he runs to mommy. Can you see how difficult it would be to be gone for 2 weeks with him being so young?
I appreciate what you're trying to say. Again, if my boys were older things would be a lot different.