[scarlet52698]

Thanks Heartened and I did make sure I expressed those feelings to her in my first letters to her and my birthson. I've been very honest about where I am in life right now and about my past. There are issues of depression and alcoholism in my past and family history that I thought my son should know about in case he ever faced the same thing.

She asked me about my family in her last email and I was honest with her about how dysfunctional they were/are. (I didn't share gorely details, just that their were childhood abuse issues).

I've emphasized in each communication with her that I want to respect their family and whatever their wishes are regarding contact/no contact I will adhere to.

I wouldn't blame her at all for being wary. While I have no criminal record, graduated college,etc. I still have a dysfunctional family of origin and I am in recovery from alcoholism(8 yrs. sober). Those two things are HUGE IMO for anyone to digest, let alone an aparent considering a relationship with their childs bparent.

It was so much easier being the adoptee in reunion *sigh*