I read through all your posts and am sad, tired and guilty. We adopted two boys 11 months ago (we also have 2 bio girls). I am crazy in love with our girls and our youngest boy but not so with our oldest boy. I hold him and sing and play like I do our other kids but there just is no connection. Someone here or on another related thread said "fake it until you feel it". That's what I have been running on for months and while it is better, it is nowhere near the love I feel for our other kids. Why? Am I doing something wrong? Why can't I love this little boy?
He is good (most of the time) and he loves to cuddle and laugh and kiss which we do, but something is missing. Today he was bad at school (he goes to preschool in the morning) hitting, kicking and spitting at his teachers. He is never like this at home. I tried to talk with him and he just looks at me like I am from Mars(which drives me crazy - so he is taking a nap right now). Part of me says it will get better and another part just wants to give up. When will it get better? Will it? Can I actually love this boy? What else should I be doing? If I can't love him, what is our life going to be like.
Sorry for the long post...
