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Originally Posted by Runyan2002
(oh, and I don't mean to offend when saying birthmom, is there another term that is better to use?)
Natalie
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I like the term first mother, some would say "other mother", the most accepted term is birthmother. I don't know if anyone has said this you just have to remember that someone considering adoption for their unborn child is NOT a birthmother until she decides to place her child with a adopting family. Until this decision is made, she is the ONLY mother, and is an expecting mother. For me, it made the whole match/birth experience much easier to deal with, not expecting anything until Bug's expecting mom made her decisions. Hope that helps...
Another resource that was helpful to us was a book called "The Open Adoption Experience" by Lois Ruskai Melina. Personally I found it helpful as it speaks to both expecting parents considering adoption and potential adoptive families.