[DreamingAzure]

Hi Everyone...Just needed to vent to a few people who might understand where I'm coming from.

This weekend I was sitting around chatting with some family friends, when I was asked when I was going to present my parents with grandchildren. Most of the friends grandbabies are half grown now...lol So I share with them my hopes to adopt from Vietnam. Several of them said "oh that's nice" and several others questioned me as to why I wouldn't adopt a baby from the US...so I explained how slight my chances are of adopting a newborn in a private adoption, and how foster care just doesn't fit into my support system very well(or my comfort zone to be honest) and that my heart is just really in Veitnam, that I had ALWAYS thought international when I thought about myself and adoption.

But then it really just started to irk me(I checked my voice mail and had a message from one of the agencies I contacted MONTHS ago)...why is it that in the US I'm a 2nd class adoption citizen?

I'm good enough to adopt internationally..but not good enough for a domestic private adoption??(I WAS told this by TWO big agency, as well as 3 small ones in my state) I consider myself to be a pretty typical Christian-middle class-single-white woman...BUT (and I was told this by 3 of the 5 agencies meantioned above) unless I'm willing to take a SN baby or Foster children who SN, It's "unlikely that I will be able to adopt domestically". They suggested that I try to find a "private situation via word of mouth and pray".

While as a Christian I would NEVER under estimate the power of prayer...the TONE of voice used was sarcastic "you don't have a chance of snow in the devil's playground" type of "PRAY"

The logic fails me...I'm a good enough person to take on the added concerns of caring for a child with mild to severe SNs, or to adopt a child from another country, But I'm NOT good enough to adopt a healthy American Newborn???

Have any of you out there as single women been successful in adopting a healthy newborn in the US??

By no means do *I* feel like international adoption is 2nd best or inferior in some way...in fact until I was repeatedly TOLD that I couldn't adopt domestically I really didn't give it a 2nd thought...

but GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!

Ya'll KWIM????