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while friends and family can be helpful, don't let them doubt your strength. i too had concerns about my ability to do a good job, not only as a mother, but to my child who would be adopted and probably from another race/culture. it is more work, and i was at times doubting myself. but i knew i would do anything for my child, and if it wasn't good enough, i'd just try harder, research more, pray harder. and learn from here as well as others. even one time here i felt i got shut down when i mentioned i was scared, but i didn't let that person's thoughts pervade my mind.
and our baby found us. we couldn't be more in love, and we couldn't care less that she looks different than we do (she was going to anyways!). i do live in the south and while that worries me some, we couldn't stand those moronic racists anyways--all the more reason to avoid them. and anyone who we feel is toxic to our family will not be part of our lives.
i think it's normal to question our limits, what we feel we can and can't do. and just b/c you are questioning, it does not mean you cannot do it. shoot, there are days where i wonder what i was thinking when i for years wanted to be a mom! doubts are normal, and allow you to look inside yourself.
good luck! and keep us posted on your journey.
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