[BethanyB]

Jen,
I'm not sure if you read all of the posts but in one of my more recent posts on this thread I stated that it WOULD be EASIER for a black child to learn about his or her culture and racial identity if he or she WAS in a home of the the same race. Please don't misunderstand what I am trying to say.

Somewhere in this thread the whole second, third, fourth best parent came in. I REFUSE to believe that I am second or third best for my children. Would they be able to take cues from the same race people they live with? Yes. And I think it would be great. But in no way are my kids in the wrong home. In no way am I a second best parent because it would have been EASIER for them to learn about culture from seeing it from day to day.
And I'm just curious why so many people are so quick to want to rate parents on a scale.

Are there things my kids could learn from a black family that they couldn't learn from me? I'm sure! I don't know everything but I don't think anyone else does either.

I have blood relatives that are phillipino and have been raised in an all white family EXCEPT their mother. Are they in a worse situation than if they had been born in the Phillipines around mostly phillipino people. My dads cousin married a black man and had 2 biracial children. Their father left when they were a young age and they were raised in my white family. Would they have been better off with their bdad and gone with him?

The reason I say this is because I am not at ALL unaware of the situations that people go through when they are in a group that are not like them race wise.

Jen, I've read and agreed with many of your posts in other threads. I would hope that you were not talking down to me. Naive I am not. And it quite frankly angers me that I must be naive or in denial if I don't agree with what everyone says.