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Originally Posted by snapple15
I am not sure what to do. I don't feel threatened but I think out of respect for the bparents that we keep a low profile until they have the opportunity to meet with Sofia.
Also should I intiate the first meeting with bparents or wait till they call me..they live about 20 minutes away.
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As a bparent, I would be offended if my family went to visit the first time after placement without me. And I'd have been offended if my family started visiting if I didn't want to have visits with the afam myself. But I wouldnt be mad at the ap's for it, I'd be mad at my family for pushing for something that I dont think they have any right to push for. (yeah, she's biologically their granddaughter, but still, out of respect for me, their daughter...)
And I think that mentioning to the bfam that you would like to visit them sometime soon and tell them to let you know when a good time might be would be an okay thing to do
. They're probably just as afraid to ask for a visit as you are. I know I was soooo worried about asking for the first visit because I felt if I asked too soon, I'd be interfering with their new family life. And I didn't want to wait too long because I was afraid they'd change their mind about visits! Oh, were those first few months tough!