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It is sad, and I can't speak for sure since I have no idea really about int'l adoptions, but from what I've learned on this forum is that there is occasionally a deception that happens and adoptive parents are adopting a child that has more health concerns than they were informed about. I am certain this would not be a decision any adoptive parent would make lightly, it is probably an adoptive parents nightmare to have to even consider this. But I speculate that there are many possible deceptions that can happen and aren't identified until the family is home and the child has been evaluated by their US dr. Not that this happens frequently, but I have seen the stories people have shared here where they were blindsided about something serious, etc.
It is important for any child to be raised in a loving home, and in a home where people can handle any special needs that may arise. Some people have the capacity to handle any thing that comes up, others have limitations. And it's important for people to honor their limitations instead of punishing the child by neglecting them or not being able to get them the care they need, and to do what is best for that child. It's not an easy decision, this I am sure. And I can never fault someone for deciding to do this, I've never walked in their shoes. I am heartbroken for a child this happens to, but hopeful that when any special needs are identified, a family willing and able to take those special needs on will be matched with them. So difficult, and you are right, so very sad.
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