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Originally Posted by will_be_a_mommy
C is a very indecisive person who kind of lets life happen to him, because he is too scared to make the bigger decisions in life.That is his only fault I can think of but I can live with that.
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The question is, when things get hard, does he bail? Is he adopting with you? Or are you adopting as a single? It matters because, as you pointed out, he's scared to make the bigger decisions, which I am assuming (tell me if I'm wrong) is why you've been together 7 years and not married. Was he with the mother of his 9 year old when she was born? Why didn't they stay together? Loving his DD and raising her are two different things.
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and if he leaves (women, children, jobs) when things get stressful, then I think you need to imagine/plan for when he leaves.
We women often make the mistake of thinking that our men don't really mean what they say, because we don't want to believe it. If he's telling you he's too old, then maybe he's really not that into this whole idea. If it comes down to choosing a child or him, what will you do?
Now, if he's really totally reliable and loyal and when he makes a commitment he sticks with it, then you likely have nothing to worry about, if he's telling you'll he'll be a dad. From the tiny bit you've shared, I have my doubts, but obviously you know him.