Here are some of my thoughts:
1. Bio. kids aren't guaranteed to fit in with thier culture either. I have a half Puerto Rican cousin who looks very Hispanic but was raised by her white mom, so she only relates to being white.
2. There are growing #s of racially mixed families, which can help you as your child grows to find other families who look like yours.
3. A child you adopt who is the same race as you most likely still doesn't have the same birth culture - bio parents may be a different religion, have different traditions, etc. Obviously this is more of an issue for racially mixed families because everybody can SEE the difference...but don't feel that you're neccesarily ripping a child away from his/her culture - it's up to adoptive parents to preserve whatever culture thier kids came from, no matter what race the kids are.
4. There are white moms and dads who have successfully raised black/biracial kids to be happy, healthy, well adjusted, and who feel that they are a part of the African American community. It can be done!
This issue is close to my heart, so I hate to see people feeling discouraged. Don't let anybody tell you it would be easy, but if you feel like it's something you're meant to do and you know you're strong enough to be a tough mama, then don't give up!
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