[soccermom77]

Hi guys, I need some advice from people that understand and NOT my family who is very closeminded!

I adopted my stepson in 1999 at age 7, although I have "had" him since he was 2. I always told him birth mom that she would be able to see him and have kept that promise until recently. Things in her life got WAY out of hand, and it got to be too much.

My questions is, she wants to see him for his 14th birthday in a month. He refuses to see her. Should I make him visit like I promised her or should I respect his wishes? I am afraid that he will regret later in life.

Was a lot easier when he was small, she came and played for an hour then left. Now he is very emabarrased by her.

Thanks!

Emma