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I agree that race is not the sole determinant of identity by any stretch. But do believe that same race placements for children of color are preferable to transracial ones - not because I think there's something wrong with interracial families, but because of all the commentary I've read from very happy and healthy transracial adoptees about their preferences. Based on what they've said, I believe that there are intangible benefits that come from same-race placements, beyond any superficial skin-tone resemblance.

OK so just to be clear, my intention in saying this is not to denigrates those of you who've stepped up to parent a different-race child or to suggest that transracial adoption presents insurmountable obstacles. I don't think that at all. All of us are great parents for our children; we do the best we can and have very special things to offer. I just think that there really are additional losses for transracial adoptees and we should at least acknowledge that.