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It is the responsibility of every parent to try to instill in their child a sense of pride about themselves...a as a human, as a male/female, as a daughter/son, as a aa/cc/asian/latino,etc.,...and to act as a support when that pride, that sense of self-worth, gets bruised and battered.
Race is not the sole determination of identity.
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Crina, I appreciate this immensely. I agree that in a perfect world children remain with their first mothers; however, that is where the necessity ends for me. I am a great mother; I provide unconditional love, support, emotional and spiritual strength, fun and laughter, an example, opportunity for individuality and creativity every day.
I do not believe that my AA daughter would be best suited by an AA family, just because they "resemble" her. I am perfectly suited, as one who never tires of incessant questions about the human body and solar system and one who has boundless physical energy, to parent a profoundly gifted three year old.
As a diligent, conscientious record keeping mama who loves noise, early banging and raucuous laughter, I am the perfect mama for my bongo loving, incessantly laughing son who needed his pulse taken 5 times a day, medication every 6 hours on schedule and exposed him to a set of drums before he was 9 months.
I am never surprised at things that people will say, so no one should be surprised to hear me say that I am the luckiest mom in the world to the two greatest kids, whom I am perfectly suited to parent.