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Thanks for all the input. Yes, locking the door to her room is something we HATE doing, but it finally came down to a safety call. If we leave her door unlocked, we have to lock all of the other kids bedroom doors at night to keep her out of the babies rooms (she is the oldest) especially after the incident where she crawled into the crib because she wanted to hold the baby. I forgot to mention that the bars on her window DO meet the fire code – they have an adult quick release and they are not permanent, a fire fighter would only have to tap them with their ax from the outside to get into her room. And she knows to knock on her door if she ever needs us so that is not a problem. I haven’t been able to keep a baby monitor in her room for years because she takes them apart (somehow she removes screws with her little fingers and then she puts the pieces in her mouth…). She does the same with baby gates – yup, most of them come apart thus defeating the whole purpose. Now that we’re on child #6 I’m realizing how unusual of a talent this is…