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How can I get our sons' bmom tuned in to kids?
Originally Posted By Jensboys
We have a fairly open adoption - letters, phone calls, videos and pictures with direct contact between us but our sons' bmom never actually agknowledges the kids. Letters come addressed "Dear Jennifer and family" Birthdays and Christmases are not mentioned - we send tons of pictures for her and practically BEG for pictures and each letter over the years has said that "Sorry about not sending pictures I am just getting them together". The kids are now 6 and 7 and are beginning to interpret this as rejection. I am considering not letting them know anymore when she writes or calls because they get so hurt but if this is going to be their reality with her should I just let it go on? Of note she parented them for 18 and 4 months respectively so its not as if she doesnt know them or have a bond. I would love so much more for the children here and I am secure enough to not be bothered by increased contact - its seems to be a constant decrease on her part as the kids get older.
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