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Originally Posted by tycunha
Hi, I have a 4 1/2 year old biological son, my husband and I are just starting the process of considering adoption, because of medical reasons it is recommended that I not have another birth child. I was wondering if anyone else has a bio first and adopted child second and how that is working, how the first child accepted it, etc.... My husband is worried that he would feel differently, which is making him question if we should pursue this or surrogacy. I feel like surrogacy is a huge if??? And a lot to go thru when we already have a bio child, why not help another child in need. I believe that we will not compare the two and love them both equally, however I appreciate his honesty and was wondering if about others experiences?
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My son was conceived via IVF (in vitro fertilization). I have no fallopian tubes due to multiple ectopic pregnancys. We attempted one more try for baby # 2 when he was 18 months old. But we were unsuccesful (and a whole lot poorer).
Adoption was always an option for us. When my son was 6 years old, we adopted our beautiful baby girl through open adoption. I can't begin to tell you how wonderful this experience has been for us!! She is such a welcome addition to our family. What a blessing!
She is now 15 months old and the light of our lives!!! I can't begin to tell you what a little princess she is!! The relationship between her and her brother is so wonderful to see! He is SO protective of her!
My son loves HIS baby sister to death!! He never thinks any different of her. It's as if she was always his sister. It makes no difference at all that she she grew in another mommy's tummy.
She in turn thinks he is just the king of the world! She follows him everywhere. She jumps all over him. Her eyes light up when he walks into the room. One of her first words was "bro bro" (brother).
Have no fear, treat both of them the same way with the same fierce love. Families are brought together in so many different ways. This is how our family became. It is meant to be!