I totally understand... I think if you feel like going back to church, you should... While it would be lovely if your husband felt the same way, I think you should do it and can do it on your own. I know many happy loving couples who either belong to different churches (e.g. wife is Catholic, husband is Free Evangelical) or couples in which one goes to church and the other does not...
I was raised Catholic but then drifted away for 20 or so years... I just got back to it about 5 years ago (although I felt the urge much earlier, and started going back to Mass on and off). I did try to go to other more "liberal" Christian churches and that was not satisfying, the church of my childhood was what I really longed for (with all its "pluses" and "minuses"). I longed for the music and the ritual and the holidays. Now I sing in the church choir and have practising fully again. I am very happy and at peace with this.
I have friends who tried to "shop" for a new church, checking them out to see which made them feel better (actually, it happened when they started having children and decided that it would be good to be back in church and have that type of community). But, I think, you know what you need and you should listen to your heart! One more thing, there is always time you can find for church. I am an extremely busy person with several part-time jobs, two dogs and busy life, but I always find time to go to Mass, and actually it makes me slow down and reflect on my life, it makes me deal with other life's demands much better.
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Originally Posted by akcskye
My husband and I are going to be adopting soon. We have been married for 11 years.
We LOVE each other, and have grown as far "emotionally" together and feel that "something missing" that children will bring us.
I was raised in a Christian household. Southern Baptist, actually.
My husband was raised in one of those "send the kids to church, but don't go yourself" type families.
We have both seen our share of hypocrisy from self professed Christians, who are either out gambling or drugging, or drinking. Enough to the point that we don't really care to go to church.
Actually, we've only been 1 time in our 11 years of marriage. We didn't even get married in a church, we got married in a wedding chapel.
Now though, I'm wanting to start going to church. I miss the way it felt to go, but my husband just is not interested.
He is saved, he is baptised. He knows and believes in God and Jesus. I don't know if he's lazy, or just is that strongly against being in a group of potential hypocrites.
We have no local friends, and we don't feel we need any, so we don't care for a social group of people. Just people there to learn about and listen to God's message.
So, what do I do? I understand my husband works 2 jobs while I am taking care of my 89 year old grandmother 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. But, is he just being lazy, or what?
I'd be curious to hear what you have to say.
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