I don't want to hijack this thread but I must thank everyone who responded for helping
put things in perspective. We too are waiting 2 months for DNA Authorization and our little boy will be 5 months in two weeks. Before beginning this process I was enamored by the idea of having a "baby" home by 4-6 months. When we accepted the referal of Antonio he was already almost 2 months, so then I adjusted to 6-8 months at homecoming. I suppose I still hold out hope that any day this could clear up and the rest of the process could go smoothly but I accept that when he is meant to come home he will. We are going to visit, even without DNA, and feel honored to meet this amazing little boy and get to spend time with him. Ultimately what I think is "best" for him is not my decision, at least not yet (I hope one day it will be).
I know this is not an easy decision but I hope realizing that you are in a VERY large boat will help you cope. It certainly has helped me.
THANK YOU ALL 
(now row, row, row...)
Melissa