The first thing that suprised me was that my bi-racial baby did not look even slightly AA. I knew he would be born lighter than his final color but I still expected him to be darker than me (CC and today I am Irish
)and have a full head of curly hair. I actually asked the agency director if she was sure he was part AA.
The next thing that suprised me was how much I felt his tie to his birthmother and wanted to be able to provide him with that link. The adoption was closed by his birthmother's choice and I thought that is what I wanted also but I ended up sad and somewhat troubled that I could not provide my son with more of a history.
Good thread!
Jen