[scarlet52698]

When I wrote my first letter to my sons parents last year I was so nervous about making a good impression. I felt like as a birthmother I had a stereotype to dispell (completely my own expectation of what I thought they might think of me). I listed all the material and academic accomplishments I had achieved.

Since then we have begun to communicate directly (last year was through the agency). With that direct communication has come more openess on both sides which has been really amazing. I find myself wishing that we could have had this kind of relationship from the beginning.