[BrandyHagz]

Today was canceled appointment number two…but that’s not why I’m upset. I expect unexpected things to pop up and require the caseworkers attention.

Here is the issue.

She called me and said, “Is Jerrett violent?”

What!?

I said, “No, of course not – he reacts to situations in inappropriate ways sometimes, but that’s all part of his diagnosis, why do you ask?”

She said, “I talked to M today and he said Jerrett beats him up all the time.”

Ok…

M is taller than Jerrett – a former FC who has been adopted and he’s dealing with his own set of issues. Jerrett and M had a “run in” almost TWO years ago (M doesn’t even go to his school any more and Jerrett hasn’t even talked to him in almost a year!) and it was nothing more than name calling and kid stuff. I even took Jerrett to apologize to his mom, because that was the right thing to do.

Anyway, she gets kinda quiet and says, “We’ll have to look into this matter further.”

Ok…so we hang up and about 30 minutes later I call her back and I said, “S, listen, I don’t want this to hurt us…this frustrates me!” and I explained the “issue” M and Jerrett had and that it was a LONG time ago, and she said, “Well, I just can’t have a kid beating on the foster kids”

BEATING ON THE FOSTER KIDS!?!?!

My son is teased relentlessly at school because he is different. There are 7 boys in his 5th grade class…there have been 4 birthday parties in which EVERY boy in the class has been invited, but Jerrett…YES, when Jerrett gets to the breaking point, he loses control…it’s part of his “issues”.

In my opinion, the issues we’ve dealt with regarding Jerrett makes us FAR more prepared to deal with foster kids…more prepared than say, someone who has no experience with anything but a ‘normal’ kid.

Clearly, this boy has misrepresented the facts of the “run in” that Jerrett and he had almost TWO years ago – and this seems to be troubling our worker a great deal (OH MY GOD).

How can we reassure her that my son is NOT a violent person this other kid (who has been a party to the teasing and picking against my son) claims he is!

Can this 12 year old boy, who hasn’t had anything to do with my son in almost a year, keep us from being licensed!?

I am about to lose my flippin mind!

Please give me some advice!