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Consider this...
I'm sorry to hear of your difficulties with your case. This is not an easy process and not for the "faint of heart". To say anyone needs patience for this process is an understatement.
We encountered every difficulty imaginable during our process and some days I thought a black cloud had settled over my house! (It took us 16 long months) My son came home at 9 mos. and has adjusted wonderfully. He's 11 mos. now and today he raised his arms up and said Mama directly to me for the first time. Would I have liked an easier process? You bet (and I would have a lot less gray hair) but would I change a thing? Never.
Here are a few suggestions to consider before you make a decision. If you are in family court #2 (I thought #2 is the unfriendly one) then you can request that your lawyer pull your file and try for another FC. If you are having problems getting auth. for DNA, possibly contact your congressmen to intervene. Not sure if that's possible though but others might know more about that.
Just keep in mind that if you drop this referral and get another one, there is no guarantee that the next referral won't hit bumps in the road. That is part of this process and you really can't escape from it. However, if adoption is general is not for you and you plan to drop this referral and adoption altogether, then that is a decision you will need to consider. As someone else said you really have to follow your heart and there is no right or wrong decision, and no one can make it for you. But give it some consideration first.
I hope I helped in some way and wish you well in your journey.
Vicki
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