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I do believe you have to do what you feel is right for you. I am sorry to hear your pain. However, as many have said, your timeline (to those of us who have been on the forum for quite a while) doesn't seem that unusual. Since this little girl is almost 3 months old, all I would recommend is that you make your decision soon. The older she gets, the tougher it will be for her to find a forever family. I'd also find out what will happen to her if you decide not to proceed. Some agencies find another family immediately to take the referral (easier done when she is very young). Other agencies take the child out of foster care (no one to pay for it) and either allow the pbmother to take custody if she can or find another institution to take her. Waiting to bring home a child can happen with any adoption. Nothing is ever guaranteed and foreign governments can do some crazy things sometimes (my daughter is a Hague Mess baby). If waiting is too much for you, I would echo what others have said and recommend that you rethink your ability to cope with any foreign adoption at this time. I know it is a heart-wrenching decision which will affect your family and the little girl. Good luck and God bless you all.
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