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Vicki,

You have to follow your heart on this one . . . there is no right or wrong decision, and no one can make it for you. The child you bring home will be the child you were meant to have. Get as many facts as you can . . . don't let outside pressures sway you . . . and go with what you think is right for your family.

We didn't have the same situation you did, but we had many "issues" regarding our adoption. Our agency, family, & friends gave us a lot of advice aobut what we "should" do. Ultimately dh and I did what we thought was right for us and I am sooo happy we did.