[vickibunni]

We are thinking about quiting our adoption and I was wondering if anyone has ever heard of anyone doing something like this after getting a referral? We have had our referral for 8 weeks now with nothing happening. Our attorney made it to the window once for DNA last week and got turned down due to the birth certificate being wrong or some other stupid reason. We were told our atotrney would get this fixed and be ready to submit us the Embassy for DNA auth again this week. Well today we find out that she is having a hard time getting this new BC and it may take weeks of her begging to get it done...and then it make take more weeks or months to get the DNA auth. We also found out that we are in one of the non adoption friendly FC and that FC has done NOTHING with our file either. I knwo that you can't expect a perfect adoption and that I shouldnt be so upset and that many others have it so much worse, but I also know that I never thought that I would face sooo many rodas blocks this soon on. My referred child will be 3 months old soon and at the pace we are moving I think it will seriously take a year or more to bring her home. I don't feel prepared to continue an adoption that is full of so many problems in every aspect of the adoption. I really never imagined having an adoption go this bad when using an agency that is supposedly so well respected in Guatemalan adoptions. I was definitely prepared to have some delays and wait during this process, but I never expected to have EVERY single part of this adoption go horribly wrong. We have had a lot of emotional losses recently and I am not sure I can go through another one right now. My heart is just breaking everyday for this child that seems like she will never be mine. I don't think I am prepared to bring home a child who is almost a year old and the biggest reason we choose Guatemala again and specifically our agency is the age of the children. We have saved for many many years for this second adoption, but I really don't think that I can do it anymore. Everyday my heart aches to hold this baby and I don't really think I have it in me to make it through a lengthy process with such huge problems from the very beginning. There is no end in sight to this either.


Vicki