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Hi
I had to spend so much time out of the country with our son's adoption, that I had to go back to work 4 days after we got home..went back full time..but my sister ran a homebased daycare and at least he was with family..though at age 2 he got kicked out of my own sisters daycare (he is/was a handfull) and we put him into a great place for kids age 2-5..small, lots of outdoor space...he would cry at times, esp the first year..'dont go' it would break our hearts..but then when we would go to pick him up he would not want to leave!

Fast forward to our daughters adoption 12 years later..
Never in a million years did I think I would have to quit my job totally...she was up 8-12x at night the first 6 months with minimal 5-10 min naps..my boss let me have part time of 24 hours a week, after I had been off for 4 months FMLA...but the 24 hours was only temporary..after 3 months she cancelled it and said full time (48 hours a week plus) or nothing..our daughter was still up alot at night..and had just had a horrendous vaccine reaction..needing specialists, speech therapists etc..so I had to quit...

Here it is 1 year later...started going back just 12 hours a week..kind of like being an agency nurse..but working for 1 hospital..no benefits at all...I do Friday nights, or Sat/Sun days..so she doesn't need daycare yet..
The money isn't bad..but like I said..no benefits at all..

I am still deciding if I want to put her in a classroom or daycare at age 3 in the fall...she still won't even get off my lap when we are out in playgroups or activities..
I tell her when she is a big girl she will go to school by herself and she says "No! Mommy Play Me!!!" I just don't know what to do..we need the money..her specialists and medications are running us around $800 a month..I guess I will have to just continue with the weekends..I am also starting graduate school...on-line..
We'll see!!