[JPDakota]

Not to belabor a point, but there are all kinds of things people say innocently that are percieved as inflamatory. For example, "We're listening to any other adoptive parent (or birth parent) who says they can't handle open adoption, too." Never did I say or (I think) intimate that I believed I could not "handle" open adoption. To me, that's inflamatory...like I'm defective or something. I believe that open adoption is not a good choice most of the time. That's a very different thing. Having said that, I'm not sure that you meant any slight, so I'm trying to assume you did not.
Anyway, people coming from varying points of view read things differently. I think there's room for tolerance everywhere.