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Originally Posted by MrsD820
And no offense to you, but people who don't suffer from infertility cannot understand. They really can't. I don't know how many times I've been told to relax, its okay.
Adoption is my ONLY option to be a mother and I will love my child with all my heart. As a Mormon, my baby will be taken with me and my husband to the Temple and I will be sealed to him/her for time and eternity. The little one will be mine in love, law and spirit.
We did not arrived at the decision to adopt lightly, we have been discussing this for years. Trust me, I will have had numerous classes, workshops and counseling sessions before our profile is added to the book or placement is even possible. Some of my jealousy issues will never go away. And other women who suffer from infertility will back me up on that.
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Your right, we don't know about infertility...but both shoshana and I know what it is to be anaadoptee and a mother. Shoshan is an adoptive mother and I have 5.
The r3eality is that as horrible as it is for you to deal with your issues, it is NOT the responsability of others to make you a parent...it is not the resposability of a little baby to fufill your dreams, it is not the responsability of society to provide you with a baby because you want one....
If in fact you want to take on the commirmwnt of parenting and you will parent through adoption, you really need to educate yourself on the different members of the triad...each of them have seperate but just as important issues that need to be known about.
As far as open adoption from an adaoptee that lived a closed? Wel, imo...I find it difficult to fathom,could be due to the timing..I was adopted in the sixties...but I do know that A semi adoption may have prevented me from question...i.e.knowing my genes, and my blood family.....In adoption there are 2 famlies for a child......that is the reality.no matter who had what dreams..the child has 2 families..and to truly respect the child that needs to be understood and respected...adoption should always be about the child first...not the adults....adults need to deal with their own losses before having the child take them on.